the negatives and the positives
What do you do when your sabotagers are family and friends you really care about? I still don’t really deal with this problem well, and I have had people ask me this question. Not directly but they text or message me when it happens. The only thing I can do is ignore it really and know that we are doing the best we can for us. I cannot emphasize how important it is not to dwell on it. This is what these energy vampires want you to do. They don’t like their life. They don’t understand why or how you are doing it, and so they say things like “you’re too skinny”, or ” why do you bother you haven’t changed at all” because they want you back to being the way you were before. Less confident in your abilities or unhappy with you’re life so they can feel better about them selves.
Its a power struggle. You gain some and they feel like they are losing out because you are moving ahead and they are either stuck or something is not going in the direction they want and they want you to be sad like they are. Or they dont even know, that what they are saying is even something that is going to bother you. People don’t realize that their words, especially when its someone you look up too or care about, really sting when its something negative. Instead of saying you look great they say, “you’re too skinny” or congrats on keeping up at the gym they say “why do you post that on face book, you just look like some wannabe”. Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and say I don’t do this for you, I do this for me.
I believe in myself and I will NOT let anyone change that.
